Here in the new year, some of the
events I've attended encouraged us to come up with a slogan for the
new year. Something more general than a resolution, but a thought to
guide oneself through the year. So I have selected the slogan of: “To
thine own self be true”.
This comes out of Hamlet and comes at
the end of a speech by Polonious to Laertes. While this piece of
advice seems clear, there are actually different interpretations.
Today when we hear the quote we might understand it as “Be
yourself”. Many of us put on masks and facades giving the world a
different impression of who we are than our own ideas of ourselves.
And there's a lot of good advice out there that to be happy you just
need to “be yourself” and end the pretense.
But that's not what Polonious probably
meant. His advice, made a few centuries ago, in the context of other
things said in his speech is more likely to have meant that his was
encouraging his son Laertes to do the right thing. And by doing the
right things, he would be taking care of himself, and his reputation.
Now this too is very good advice. When we do the right things, we
usually are making things better for ourselves and others. Too bad
that the problem is determining what the right thing is.
But “true” has many meanings. For
me it generally means reliable and accurate. All to often we end up
lying to ourselves. Sometimes we'll build ourselves up, in our own
minds, and inflate our egos. But all too often, we tend to tear
ourselves down. We listen to our inner critic and let ourselves
believe things about ourselves that simply aren't true. Under
this definition the slogan starts to transmute into something more
like Socrates' “Know Thyself”.
But, as the physicist, Richard
Feynman, noted the easiest person to fool is yourself. But you
shouldn't. So how does a person keep from fooling themselves? Well
Feynman's answer is science. So perhaps the techniques of
science provide a way for us to be true to ourselves. So
approach this as a scientific problem.
What are the things you believe to be
true? If those things really are true, what are some things that you
can predict from them. Then test those predictions. When your
predictions come true, then you can feel confident that your original
beliefs are likely to be true. However, just like in science,
everything is subject to continual testing.
And when your predictions turn out to
be false? Well, that means that your theory, in this case about
yourself, needs revision. Sometimes this may end up meaning you're
not as good at something as you thought. But often, given the
prevalence of inner critics telling ourselves we can't do something,
it will mean that maybe, just maybe, you're better at things than you
thought.
So take this new year as a time to
learn something new, something true, about yourself.
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